Am I the only person out there in social-media-land who really, really does not want to be friended by companies on Facebook?
I get random invitations, quite frequently, popping up with the accompanying "34 mutual friends" peer-pressure type inspired messages.
I get random invitations, quite frequently, popping up with the accompanying "34 mutual friends" peer-pressure type inspired messages.
So, what - how does the strategy go, exactly... did they comb through their profiles, saw me flash up in their friends' friends lists and thought to themselves: oh hey, she's a blogger!
If I friend her then she can promote my business for me because she just loves writing about education so she's bound to notice our wonderful amazing products and become just absolutely passionate about our company, and, and... and with a relative glee, clicked on that add as a friend button - with no need for any type of accompanying message.
If I friend her then she can promote my business for me because she just loves writing about education so she's bound to notice our wonderful amazing products and become just absolutely passionate about our company, and, and... and with a relative glee, clicked on that add as a friend button - with no need for any type of accompanying message.
But who are they:
is it a Jennifer, Janey or Jeremy behind their logo?
I presume that I won't suddenly be having some kind of level access to their own photo albums, movie genre preferences or their deep and darkest private thoughts. They'll have individual private profiles for that sort of stuff or are they hoping to share great TED videos with me?
Going to be sending me the latest rap songs, which they know I'll be loving?
Doubt it.
The upside:
I probably won't have to scroll through their Mafia War, Farmville or Jewel-thingie transactions.
The downside:
They'll get to see me having a whinge or a moan about whatever is going on in my life that isn't all roses on whatever day that it isn't all roses. They'll see the music I like and if a friend (you know, a real friend) or a family member (you know, a real person who is connected to me via flesh and blood) is going through something and I comment on their lives' passing by then they'll see my thoughts in whatever comment it is that I want to leave behind. In whatever way I openly communicate within my intimate circle they'll see...
OOOOOOOOh. Nooooooo.....
This gives me the hiiii biii jiiiiibies and I don't doubt that would give my friends and families the hiiii biiii jiiiibies too if I were to allow this sort of access to these edu-marketers. Eee-yuck.
Now, if the desire for the connect is not because I'm an edublogger, is it simply that I am just some random teacher especially selected to receive their spam..? I mean why not simply invite me to an official group page 'cause Facebook is about
a) friends
b) family
c) professional colleagues who I've allowed into my life and thoughts and intimate circle in order that we may become friends: real friends.
It is not random.
Why are these companies opting for the "friend" route - why the let's have access to everything you think route? Why haven't they opted for a page or a group? I join Groups. I don't mind groups, check on them too, sometimes, when I have time.
Please don't tell me that these educational companies don't or won't spam us via Facebook. Let's face it, usually, as a general rule, on the whole, they have done absolutely no research into web2.0 best practices, (they have a Ph.D in Marketing from 1972 so they don't need to read up on what the self-prescribed gurus have declared best practices) and aren't interested in how social-networking works at all... they've just seen the numbers amassing and gotten wind of that ephemeral concept with its esoteric acronym... and with tongues a-salivating and dollar-signs a-blinking have felt a temptation way too yummy to resist and have come on in a-braying as they enter.
You think I'm just ranting?
In the last two weeks, one of my PLN decided to tag me in a painting, not of me, but basically, essentially this piece of her art would now show up as my face when someone decides to google image search me. I tried to explain this to the artist as I felt that it was not actually an intended offense but she simply couldn't see the problem because, basically, she is in love with her art and has absolutely no problem with my name lending her some kudos.
I'm not stupid, she wanted my friends list to see her art.
I have a problem with that.
I think it is dishonest and blatant marketing within my private space.
I think it is dishonest and blatant marketing within my private space.
I untagged myself.
One of my PLN befriended one of my real friends. My real friend since I was 14, wrote to check if this person was an okay person to become friends with... so I told her that yes, I thought so but honestly, it does make me feel a little weird, silly and nervous. I'm crossing my fingers that it was actually okay, that the interest is genuine and that they can become real friends too.
One very dear person in my PLN wrote a blog article - a very good blog article - but she tagged me in it and wrote as a header that read This Article is about You. Now it wasn't about me. It was about her and about her development of her PLN which is great, but basically, by doing this, tagging me in this way drove my curious real friends and my wanting-to-know-what's-going-on-in-my-life-real-family to her blog page to find out just what had been said about the Karenne they love.
These people are not potential members of her PLN.
These people aren't my
Personal or Passionately Loving
or
my Professional Learning Network.
Personal or Passionately Loving
or
my Professional Learning Network.
These people are my Friends and Family.
Not cool.
Seriously.
I untagged myself.
So what's next: Mr company-who-wants-to-be-my-friend? What will you be tagging me in?
Sigh, I guess, I suppose instead of ranting and whingeing about all this, with you on my blog page, I could of course, just click on the ignore button whenever I receive these requests. Actually I do do this, but after seeing the 34-mutual-friends on the last one, I just really had to put it out there and ask:
Why would anyone let a random company
have access to one's private
photos and thoughts?
To The Wall?
To The Wall?
Doesn't anyone else feel like this is a total invasion of privacy?
Update 31 May 2010
hat tip to Petra Pointer for sharing this with me on Facebook
Useful related links
- More of my blog postings on social networking
- Face on or face off
- Death by PLN, Darren Ellliot
- Sabrina de Vita on Facebook vs Twitter
- Janet Bianchini on Facebook Privacy Issues
- Graham Stanley on Private or Public
- Keyboard friends by Carl Robinson
Finding this blog on Facebook:
via Facebook, Networked Blogs
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If you want to be my friend on Facebook, it is okay, just do a search on my name and write me a personal message saying who you are, don't just click on the add as a friend button and for blessed sake, respect my world, my life... :)
Best,
Karenne
imagecredit: I want privacy by bejealousofme, flickr
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